Mike Weirsky
“As we move along our pilgrimage through this life, we learn to carry joy in one hand and suffering in the other.” I heard that truth in one of the many enriching events I experienced last week. Then our Daily Prayer entry reinforced it as our pastors got us started on our Lent journey:
The experience of God’s love and the experience of our weakness are correlative [they move together like a team]. These are the two poles that God works with as he gradually frees us from immature ways of relating to him. The experience of our desperate need for God’s healing is the measure in which we experience his infinite mercy. The deeper the experience of God’s mercy, the more compassion we will have for others. – Thomas Keating in Invitation to Love
Mike Weirsky, 54, may have lost out on his winning ticket if not for the good deed of Phil Campolo, a cashier at a convenience store in New Jersey. Up Next in News. New Jersey handyman comes forward as $273M lottery winner. Mike Weirsky finally got a call for a job interview Wednesday after more than a year of looking for employment without any luck. But that call came three days too late, he said. On Sunday, Weirsky.
It is so true! Read the quote again and let it sink in — just like we were doing at the Lent retreat last Saturday.
They make Lent sound so easy
Father Keating’s words seem somewhat obvious, don’t they? — that is until we move from his great teaching and into the next moment of our day! In that next moment someone or something is very likely to jostle our hold on joy in one hand or and kick us into the automatic, suffering-grabbing reactions we’re holding in the other.
If I were on retreat in Snowmass, Colorado (as I intend to be someday!) with a beloved leader like Father Keating and other privileged people who could afford such an experience, the correlative experience of love/joy and weakness/suffering would undoubtedly make as much sense as it does right now as I am writing about it in the quiet of my study. But I must add, when I was driving to the Sunday meeting not long ago, feeling late, I suffered another of the million potholes in Philly right before someone pulled out in front of me. That moment exposed my weak hold on joy and my hyper-awareness of the injustice I suffer.
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While Father Keating and other luminaries have been invited into my spiritual home for a long time, their light is easy to dim. They make spiritual disciplines like Lent, seem kind of easy. But they aren’t. So I am writing today to see if I can encourage you to give it all another go, like I am. It would be lovely to always stroll along with a nice awareness of carrying correlative things that God will use to grow us up. But I admit that is not always my immediate post-pothole response. I expect Lent to be just as challenging. It is a call to experience the potholes and cutoffs of life as opportunities to gain resurrection, as invitations to love. Stick with me a bit longer and maybe you’ll feel like that invitation is more likely than it seems.
Psalm 63 makes Lent look a bit harder
Spiritual maturity takes time and effort. It’s the journey of a lifetime. In Psalm 63 [our song] the anxious psalmist says, “My soul thirsts for you; my flesh faints for you, as in a dry and weary land where there is no water.” As he turns to prayer in his desperate condition he feels joy and love. That’s one hand. But at the end of the psalm he is back to facing the weakness and suffering of being threatened by someone who seeks to destroy him, who he has to fight for his life! That’s the other hand.
No one is seeking my life (except maybe the dismantled EPA); other than that, my prayers are a lot like Psalm 63. For instance, just this past weekend the plumber was at our Pocono home (our personal Snowmass). On the one hand that retreat place brings me endless joy and is often filled with love. On the other hand, the plumber discovered a rock from our symbolic mountain had dislodged a sewer pipe! The foundation of our house is threatened and it will cause unknown suffering to fix it. Can we carry such joy in one hand and suffering in another and trust God to grow us up through the journey?
I think we will make it again, just like I think you will make it through Lent again. That is, unless some crisis breaks your sewer line and you keep pouring crap under the house. A lot of spiritual teachers seem surprisingly unfamiliar with crap. I think that’s because, unlike a lot of us, we’re hearing from them after they’ve already got the pipe fixed. My pipe has to wait for a thaw to be fixed. I hope I am helping you thaw in relation to Lent, so you can get started.
Some days of this Lent WILL be easier
I think it is easy for all of us to feel weighed down by the suffering we are carrying. When I go into a Sunday meeting, sometimes it looks like we are all kind of hunched over to one side, some of us almost dragging our knuckles on the ground, weighed down by the weaknesses and suffering in that hand. But then something happens that reminds us that we have another hand waiting to be filled.
Things happen like this. Last week NPR reported how Mike Weirsky, who is unemployed and recently divorced, purchased lottery tickets at a QuickChek in Phillipsburg, N.J., right across the Delaware River from Easton, PA. Then he was distracted by his cellphone and left the tickets on the counter. He said, “I put the tickets down, put my money away, did something with my phone and just walked away.”
As the time for the drawing neared, he looked around his house for the tickets for hours. He could not find them! So he went back to the store to see if they had them. To his surprise, he somebody had handed them in the day before. The cashier “made me explain what I bet and what the tickets were, and she handed them to me, and I walked out.”
Then, during the snowstorm Sunday before last, Weirsky got around to checking his numbers — and realized he was holding the winning ticket. He’s going to take a lump sum payout of $162 million, buy a new truck, and then listen to his lawyer. Snowstorm, divorce, unemployment and who-knows-what-else in one hand; in the other hand, winning lottery tickets. I’m not sure his winnings will provide all the joy he desires, but I am still happy for the guy.
I think Lent is also a bit like winning the lottery. On the one hand, Lent accentuates the suffering, of course — the whole season ends with a crucifixion! But in that big other hand, Lent also leads to resurrection! I heard a couple of stories from the retreat last Saturday that were like stories about winning the spirituality lottery. I’m still feeling like I found my lost ticket myself. After some encouragement from Gwen to try imaging prayer, I returned to the interior “spiritual landscape” that was so important for me 30+ years ago, expecting that my ticket to that joy was unrecoverable. But, to my surprise, the Spirit gave me an encouraging little gift that raised my sights away from my dry and weary land and into the stars. That’s a handful I am carrying with me on my Lent journey.
I’m praying you can also feel God with you as move along into your true self: joy in one hand and that pesky-but-redemptive suffering in the other.
The wife of a man who won $273 million in the Mega Millions lottery earlier this month is asking him to end her court-ordered spousal support.
Eileen Murray was the primary breadwinner in her marriage with Mike Weirsky of Alpha, New Jersey. They only just divorced months ago, and Murray was ordered to pay spousal support to Weirsky for five years after the end of their relationship.
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But she's hoping his massive windfall will change things.
'To him, [the alimony] is pocket change at this point,' Murray told Inside Edition exclusively. 'Think about the amount of money that he has just won. What I'm paying him is a pittance.'
Murray said that Weirsky spent the majority of their 15-year marriage taking care of their dog at home, which wasn't 'a bad thing.' It enabled them flexibility to travel, according to Murray. 'Some years we maybe took four to five vacations.'
'I don't want anyone to misconstrue that I'm coming after him,' Murray said, adding that she doesn't want a cut of the winnings. She just wants him to use it wisely.
'I hope he does very good things with it,' she said. '... I'm happy for him, I really am. I'm not an angry person, I'm not a mean person.'
When Weirsky spoke to Inside Edition earlier in March, he was a little sensitive on the subject of Murray. 'It's over with,' he said. 'I just want her to stop being in my life.'
Murray said that she found out about her ex's win through an anonymous call.
'I had already seen that somebody had purchased a ticket at that store and I thought, 'There's no way it could be him,' and sure enough it was,' she recalled. 'I was shocked.'
The store where Weirsky bought the ticket already had special meaning for the onetime couple, Murray said. 'He proposed to me at that QuickChek,' she said with a laugh. '... I'm his good luck charm.'
Inside Edition's Senior Correspondent Les Trent bought Murray a Mega Millions lottery ticket himself to see if he might be her good luck charm.
No word yet.
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